In an earlier post (Read Here) I spoke about missed opportunities. We discussed four major reasons for these including lethargy in general, being unaware, being extra cautious or lack of planning.
While people do keep regretting missed opportunities we should understand how we can avoid unnecessary regrets. For this consider couple of things.
Often in life many things require decisions to be time bound. If you delay the decision you may lose the opportunity forever. We keep hearing, Oh No', If only I had decided to buy that apartment today I would have earned five times the investment and its just five years since the opportunity went by. See my friends who joined that company.... I took time to decide and they are at the peak of their careers.
The question to ask is each time you make a delay in decision is : "What's the Good Reason to delay the decision for". Once you make that decision don't view it as a missed opportunity, just view it as a different path or option you chose. This is what Andrew Lincoln once said about missed opportunities.
Second let us look at it the way the noted motivational speaker Zig Ziglar does when he says "The top sales person in your organization probably missed more sales than 90% of the sales people on the team, but they also made more calls than the others made." This sums up another way to look at it. You missed out something to gain something else. What you did not get by making more sales calls was "low sales". So even though you missed some you ended up the winner.
Third and most simple way to look at it is "If you did not try or attempt to do something" then it is not a missed opportunity. It becomes missed opportunity only if you made a conscious choice to opt for something but then did not do it, not out of constraints or limitations, but as an act of omission. Only then you should accept it as a missed opportunity.
Have you heard anyone regret he / she did not become like Michelangelo the painter. If you did then you must have put in efforts to become a master painter.
In short, what you did will decide whether you missed out. Did nothing, missed nothing.
That way you will be able to rationalize your experiences in a manner that does not make you unnecessarily worried and set your mind wandering for a comforting solution.
While people do keep regretting missed opportunities we should understand how we can avoid unnecessary regrets. For this consider couple of things.
Often in life many things require decisions to be time bound. If you delay the decision you may lose the opportunity forever. We keep hearing, Oh No', If only I had decided to buy that apartment today I would have earned five times the investment and its just five years since the opportunity went by. See my friends who joined that company.... I took time to decide and they are at the peak of their careers.
The question to ask is each time you make a delay in decision is : "What's the Good Reason to delay the decision for". Once you make that decision don't view it as a missed opportunity, just view it as a different path or option you chose. This is what Andrew Lincoln once said about missed opportunities.
Second let us look at it the way the noted motivational speaker Zig Ziglar does when he says "The top sales person in your organization probably missed more sales than 90% of the sales people on the team, but they also made more calls than the others made." This sums up another way to look at it. You missed out something to gain something else. What you did not get by making more sales calls was "low sales". So even though you missed some you ended up the winner.
Third and most simple way to look at it is "If you did not try or attempt to do something" then it is not a missed opportunity. It becomes missed opportunity only if you made a conscious choice to opt for something but then did not do it, not out of constraints or limitations, but as an act of omission. Only then you should accept it as a missed opportunity.
Have you heard anyone regret he / she did not become like Michelangelo the painter. If you did then you must have put in efforts to become a master painter.
In short, what you did will decide whether you missed out. Did nothing, missed nothing.
That way you will be able to rationalize your experiences in a manner that does not make you unnecessarily worried and set your mind wandering for a comforting solution.
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